Help, dont know what do to with my husband ex and kids

I am married to a divorce man, and his ex has been so mean to us in every way she can. she would send hurtful messages and says things to the kids that put as down or shell create something isnt true at all. shell creates things to be difficul, she blames us for everything that happen. basically telling to the kids that we are the mean one... all this things have been given me a lot of tears, sleep less night, stress and now depression. we are putting up on this for so long now, but it has taken a lot of emmotional problem to me and my husband.

since, the day i lived with my husband the schedule was slowly changing from every other weekend and every tuesday.. to tuesday,wensday Thursday, every other weekend sometimes two weekend at a row. then it was change to tuesday to wendsay and every weekend. and finaly now( almost two years now) we have the kids half the time and sometimes more than half the time( never been less the time)... her reason for this is that she wants the kids to spent more time to their father. but the truth is they cant handle the kids. she mentioned in her text couple of times the they cant handle the kids and to change custody, but the next day they change their mind because they need the money( child support).

I'll try to not say a lot in here. all i am saying is that is the most awful person i have ever meet in my entire life... just like 2 days ago... that i cant watch one of the kids because i have other important things to do...and she just went crazy... non stop sending awful messages, (email and text) telling what a negative person i am that i cant watch the child...and bla bla.. her logic is that if truly i love the child, why dont i cancel my errands and stay with the child.( which i did couple of times) and i am a stay at home mom. and as she said before her husband is not a baby sitter. OMG that same logic applies to hers to.

she always says she works so hard.. and i dont coz i stay at home. when she was married to my husband she never works... even though she has a lot of opportunity, her moms help her a lot about the kids, they even had a cleaner... because there house is just a mess... and i dont have all that and my baby still little and every people that come in to our house says what a night and day.

changing of schedule.. is a lot for me specialy when my baby was just little...and it bothers me too that she has all this freedom partying at night because we have the kids half the time or more than half the time and were giving her a ton of money in which i dont think goes to the kids. and we watch the kids whenever they asked us. except one night... but they left the kids anyway and continue on to their night out party. my relationship to her kids is getting worse because of her alienation.. all of her games is just too much more than what i can handle, she did a lot of awful things.

i would like to go back to the original schedule, to teach her that we are actually a lot of help for them... and i want our time my husband and i and our baby. and this will also help my stress..

but ofcourse as soon as we mentioned that, she was just very very nasty.

HELP WHAT SHOULD I DO. my husband is not even welling to do the change of schedule... because he is afraid that kids will turn against him and he wants to see the kids a ton too... but i am not asking him to not see the kids at all. hell see them every other weekend and every tuesday. (sometimes i said this to myself, what were they thinking anyway before when they draft this original agreement). PLS HELP

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